23 Things I’ve Learned In 23 Years

Hey everyone!

Last Saturday it was my 23rd birthday and I got thinking about all the things I’ve learned over my lifetime, so decided to write a post about it!

1. You’re not invincible.

Someone once told me this and it really stuck with me.  Whether that means sticking to the speed limit when driving or taking a mental health day off work if you’re struggling, remember that you need to look after yourself.

2. Getting lost in a book is a wonderful feeling.

3.  Friends is without a doubt the best TV show that has ever existed.

4. Heartbreak is soul destroying…

I’ve had my heart broken once and I completely fell apart, I didn’t feel like I was ever going to over it.

5. …carrying on from my last point: time is a healer.

Even though it doesn’t feel like it at the time, time really does help you to heal when you’ve had your heart broken (or when something else that hurts you happens!).  You’ll realise that you can live without that person, or that living without them at least does get easier.

6. Your job is not the most important thing in the world, sometimes you have to put your own wellbeing first.

Don’t get me wrong, working hard at your job is important, but you need to be careful not to half kill yourself for a job that would replace you in a heartbeat.  Work hard, but look after yourself too.

7. True friends will remain by your side when you really need them.

8. Animals are the best therapists.

A cuddle with a dog or a cat when you’re feeling down can be so therapeutic.

9. Enjoy getting dressed up and letting your hair down.

10. Working hard is rewarding.

Whether it’s revising hard for exams or for your job, or even for something personal like your blog, hard work really does pay off.  While it can be miserable at the time (I do not miss revision at all!), the rewards make it so worth it.

11. Perfecting winged eyeliner makes you feel ready to face the world.

I’m such a winged eyeliner addict, and perfecting that flick makes you feel so good.

12. You have survived every bad day that has happened to you so far.

This is something I say to myself when I’m down or having a really bad day; you have survived everything you’ve gone through to date.

13. It’s okay to rely on friends and family.

Sometimes it’s okay to admit you’re struggling and rely on the people close to you to help you through.

14. Make time to see your family, they won’t be around forever.

15. Small gestures can mean the most.

Something small like buying someone a chocolate bar when they’re down or sending a friend a birthday card can really mean a lot.

16. Getting your hair done always makes you feel better.

Who doesn’t feel sassy flicking their freshly blow dried around?!

17. Drinking too much just isn’t cool.

I’ve been there and done that with the student lifestyle at uni, and looking back on it I so wish I had drunk a much smaller amount so that I could remember all of my nights and not made some regrettable decisions! And hangovers are so not cool… I haven’t had more than one glass of wine at a time for the past two years and I feel so much better!

18. Look after your body, you only get one!

This partly relates to the previous point; eat your vegetables and go for a run, if you look after your body, it will look after you.

19. Dance and sing along to your favourite song every once in a while.

20. Don’t let other people’s opinions of you affect you.

The opinions that other people have of you do not affect or define you, as long as you believe in yourself, that’s all that matters.

21. If you’re feeling down, anxious or upset, get yourself outside and get some fresh air, problems can seem so much worse when you’re cooped up inside.

22. Treat others as you want to be treated.

23. Follow your dreams.

You get one life, whether it’s going travelling, asking someone out or going for that dream job – you’ll only regret the things you didn’t do!

So there we go, those are 23 things that I feel I’ve learned over the past 23 years.  Some of them are silly little things and some of them are more about life decisions.  Do you agree with these?  Are there other things you feel you’ve learned over your life?  I’d love to know in the comments!

Hope that you’re all enjoying the gorgeous weather!

Stephanie x



  1. April 22, 2018 / 7:34 pm

    “you’re not invinicable” this is now going to stick with me too! It’s incredibly important to look after yourself first and foremost!! I have to admit though, i’m pretty bad at looking after my body – definitely need to work on that! I hope you had a lovely birthday xx

    • Stephanie Jay
      April 22, 2018 / 7:52 pm

      I’d never really thought about it before but I really remember to look after myself now. Had a lovely birthday thank you x

  2. April 22, 2018 / 7:34 pm

    I love this post! I tried to do one for my 26th birthday, but couldn’t even narrow all of my life lessons down xD Anyways, I totally agree with 17! When I was in my late teens, I always thought drinking was *cool* but honestly, it isn’t even that great and I wasn’t missing out on it ha.

    cabin twenty-four

    • Stephanie Jay
      April 22, 2018 / 7:53 pm

      Once you get a bit older you realise that drinking too much just isn’t cool! X

  3. April 22, 2018 / 7:36 pm

    I find posts like these extremely interesting to see what others have learned at their age! I loved the small gestures part, definitely the smaller things in life can be hugely important!
    I will give your blog a follow lovely, I enjoyed this post!

    Claire xxx

    • Stephanie Jay
      April 22, 2018 / 7:53 pm

      Aw thank you! X

  4. April 22, 2018 / 7:42 pm

    Happy Belated Birthday!
    I love these points that you have and I believe in a lot of them as well. Also Friends is the best show!! x

    • Stephanie Jay
      April 22, 2018 / 8:21 pm

      Thank you! You just can’t go wrong with Friends haha x

  5. April 22, 2018 / 7:56 pm

    I absolutely love these types of posts! I definitely agree with friends, Im literally watching it right now! There one where Rachel gets an eye infection and Monica has to force her to go to the eye doctor & put eye drops in! Haha! Love these little pieces of advice! xx


    • Stephanie Jay
      April 22, 2018 / 8:23 pm

      Haha I love that episode! Xx

  6. April 22, 2018 / 8:14 pm

    All of these were so true, but I totally relate to feeling better after getting my hair done haha!! Sometimes all you need is a little confidence boost!
    Happy birthday 🙂

    • Stephanie Jay
      April 22, 2018 / 8:28 pm

      Nothing beats newly done hair! Thank you x

  7. April 22, 2018 / 9:23 pm

    A great list… It’s nice to be reminded of 9 and 19 too!

    • Stephanie Jay
      April 22, 2018 / 10:25 pm

      Thank you! I try to let my hair down every now and then haha x

  8. April 22, 2018 / 9:30 pm

    Loved this post! I think it’s a great way to look back on things x

    • Stephanie Jay
      April 22, 2018 / 10:22 pm

      Thank you Hanna! X

  9. April 22, 2018 / 9:31 pm

    I love this post! So many life lessons at this age aint there 😅 #23 is my fave!

    Aims x

    • Stephanie Jay
      April 22, 2018 / 10:18 pm

      Thank you! I think #23 is one of the most important! X

  10. April 22, 2018 / 9:32 pm

    Happy belated birthday! I always love reading about the things people learned over the years. Time IS a healer! Things can’t mend itself right away – need to be patient and work towards the good things. I totally agree with #6 as well. A happy life outside of work can influence your work experience a bit better. Self-care is so important! Haha, I agree with #17 as well! While I love drinks, it’s not worth losing your senses by drinking a bit too much.


    • Stephanie Jay
      April 22, 2018 / 10:10 pm

      Thank you, glad you found them relatable! Time definitely is a healer x

  11. April 22, 2018 / 10:03 pm

    I agree with all of this! Animals really are the best, and I think letting your hair down and just forgetting about all the judgement, even for a second, can be amazing! Also, I have definitely found that when I am having a bad day, getting out and getting that fresh air can do me the world of good! x

    • Stephanie Jay
      April 22, 2018 / 10:09 pm

      Aw glad you agree, forgetting about judgement is so liberating! X

  12. April 25, 2018 / 8:32 am

    Happy belated birthday dear God bless you.
    These are really good lessons, and I agree with them. Animal therapy is so soothing, I keep telling myself to appreciate each family member and friend because we won’t be here on earth forever. I’m at a place in ky life where I’ve decided to follow my dreams.

    Whenever you can I’d love to have you over at my blog http://www.lilyofnigeria.com

    • Stephanie Jay
      April 25, 2018 / 5:21 pm

      Thank you! Following your dreams is so important, I’m glad that you’re at that place in your life x

    • Stephanie Jay
      April 25, 2018 / 5:29 pm

      Thanks! Haha can’t go wrong with some winged eyeliner!

  13. April 27, 2018 / 9:41 am

    I love your lessens! Couldn’t agree more that getting lost in a book is a wonderful feeling, and by the way, no matter how old you are! And I also believe that job is not the most important thing and you need to put yourself first!

    Have a wonderful weekend!

    • Stephanie Jay
      April 27, 2018 / 4:21 pm

      Thank you! Nothing beats getting lost in a good book! X

  14. April 30, 2018 / 4:54 pm

    Enjoyed reading this. We all learn throughout our lives. You’ve noted down some important lessons. 🙂

    • Stephanie Jay
      May 16, 2018 / 1:22 pm

      Thank you x

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