Where have I been?

You may have noticed that I’ve been a bit absent from the blogging world recently. I was really struggling to get inspired; I couldn’t think of anything to write and I felt a bit demotivated by the whole thing. Instead of forcing myself to produce content just for the sake of it, I decided to take a step back until I fell back in love with it. My anxiety has really caused me to struggle with getting motivated. I’m the kind of person who thrives under pressure and with not being able to work or having anything that I HAVE to do, I’ve been finding it really hard to motivate myself. Even getting out of bed can become a struggle because I just feel like there’s nothing to get up for.

Last week I decided that I needed to sort myself out a bit. It’s so frustrating that my anxiety is preventing me from working, but I thought that if I could get back into a better routine and get my motivation to do things that I enjoy (such as blogging!) then my quality of life would be a lot better and I would be giving myself the best chance of recovery.

My sister suggested that we have 7 days of no phones (!). This would mean putting my phone on airplane mode meaning I would have no access to Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, YouTube texts or calls. We were allowed to use our laptops to check e-mails as we were both expecting important e-mails that we needed to be able to access and we were still allowed to use our phones for alarms and for listening to downloaded music, but that was it. I was really unsure at first, I nearly always have my phone in my hand and I’m constantly scrolling through Twitter and Instagram. My mum offered to buy us both a little treat if we managed it, so always one to take on a challenge (plus being bribed haha) I decided to give it a go. Last Monday at 7pm I switched my phone on to airplane mode and only took it off last night.

It’s been liberating! Before I would always have my phone nearby and would feel twitchy if it was in another room. I would be scrolling through Twitter or Instagram while watching TV or a film meaning that I wasn’t concentrating properly. I’ve been on and off my phone while talking to friends or family. I didn’t realise how much I did all these things until I stopped doing them last week. Half the time I didn’t even know where my phone was, or it would stay tossed in my bag where I had put it first thing in the morning. I could watch the TV (I have just started watching The Crown on Netflix and am LOVING it) without constantly having to rewind it or ask what someone had just said because I’d been looking at my phone. When we went out for coffee or dinner as a family we would just be talking without distraction. When we’ve been on the beach I’ve been enjoying reading instead of meaning to read and ending up scrolling through Instagram. It has been easier because we’ve been on holiday so I haven’t had any plans with friends that not having a phone would make difficult, but it has still been hard not being able to go on the apps that I usually would scroll through or send my friends a quick message. But it’s taught me a really valuable lesson. I was addicted to my phone and now I can see how much I was using it and how damaging it was. I now don’t need to know where my phone is ALL the time; if someone messages me it can wait! I will still enjoy using Twitter and Instagram but I won’t be constantly scrolling through them while doing other activities.

I would 100% recommend having a phone detox, even if it’s just for 24 hours. Having this time away from the internet, as well as getting myself into a better night and morning routine and exercising more (we’ve been staying in a cottage that has shared access to a gym and swimming pool so I’ve been making the most of it!) have given me a new lease of life and a fresh wave of motivation. Obviously life is still very difficult for me due to my anxiety, but I now feel motivated to keep myself in a good routine and to do things that I enjoy such as blogging and doing an online course in make-up (that I started in January woops, have not been good at getting myself to do it!)

Have you ever had a phone detox? Do you think you would try one? I’d love to know what you think in the comments!

Lots of love



  1. Ian
    August 28, 2018 / 8:03 pm

    Hi stephanie it’s great to have time away from social media,it’s a great idea.I’ve had those moments when i’ve took time off it.It puts a different perspective on things ,makes you feel better for it too x

    • Stephanie Jay
      August 28, 2018 / 10:05 pm

      It’s so refreshing to have some time away isn’t it! x

  2. August 28, 2018 / 8:15 pm

    I love the idea of a phone detox! I definitely spend way too much time scrolling through social media especially when I wake up. From now on, I’m planning on having breakfast and doing yoga before I check my phone and see if I’m more productive in the mornings. Thank you for the inspiration and glad you had such a positive experience Stephanie! 💖 xx

    Bexa | http://www.hellobexa.com

    • Stephanie Jay
      August 28, 2018 / 10:05 pm

      That’s such a great idea, I think I’ll try and do that too – it’s a bit sad that the first thing we do in the morning and the last thing we do at night is check our phones! Xxx

  3. Michelle Blackadar
    August 28, 2018 / 8:49 pm

    i totally need to try a phone detox one weekend. i’ve noticed i’ve been able to go without my phone for a little while but then i get fomo and have to see what people are talking about on twitter or instagram even if i’m not posting. it’s so bad! i hope your anxiety gets better lovely. great post xxx

    mich // simplymich.com

    • Stephanie Jay
      August 28, 2018 / 10:04 pm

      It’s so easy to get addicted to these apps isn’t it! It’s so liberating having a detox! Xxx

  4. August 28, 2018 / 9:43 pm

    This was so interesting! I’d love to try this. I’m very aware of how long I spend on my phone and I know it’s bad. I feel like I’d need someone to physically take it off me to not cheat though!


    • Stephanie Jay
      August 29, 2018 / 10:59 pm

      Haha it was so hard not to cheat, I think because I did it with my sister it made it easier because I didn’t want her to beat me! X

  5. August 29, 2018 / 6:07 am

    That’s great! I love it and will try to detox phone and Internet! I think what makes us hooked more is Internet!!!! Living few days without these would sure be something fun and lively!

    Xoxo Babita

    • Stephanie Jay
      August 29, 2018 / 11:01 pm

      It’s so easy to get addicted to the internet isn’t it! X

  6. August 29, 2018 / 7:27 am

    Wow well done on the phone detox! As blogging is my job at the moment, having a phone detox would be really difficult for me because I need it to work but I think a 24 hour one at the weekend would be doable. Definitely something I want to have a go at! 🙂 xxx

    • Stephanie Jay
      August 29, 2018 / 11:01 pm

      It is hard when our phones are necessary for day to day life but doing a 24 hour one sounds like a fab idea! Xxx

  7. August 29, 2018 / 8:57 pm

    Absolutely love this idea but sadly I feel petrified to do something like this, I think I’d manage the social media aspect (although imagine the follow friday twitter issue) but being away for uni I wouldn’t manage texts and calls!

    This is so amazing that you’ve done this though and I’m really pleased this has helped you! <3 xx

    • Stephanie Jay
      August 29, 2018 / 10:57 pm

      Aw it is hard, maybe you could just try a 24 hour social media detox – might make it a bit more manageable for you! ❤️

  8. August 31, 2018 / 12:36 pm

    Glad that you have found the motivations to start blogging again. Sometimes I feel a little lost, and I need to give myself a pep talk and focus on something, which is usually my blog. I’ve never had a detox before, but I don’t think I’m addicted to my phone. When I’m busy, I’m never on it (unless I need to take a photo or answer a call). I think (hopefully), that I have the right balance between being online and offline.

    Excited to see what new content you come up with!

    Aycan // http://www.littlewhitesocks.com

    • Stephanie Jay
      August 31, 2018 / 2:43 pm

      Thank you! That’s great you have the balance right, I think I definitely do as well now which is fab! X

  9. September 1, 2018 / 4:45 pm

    The most I can last on a phone detox is about a day. You did great! They are definitely worthwhile. I’m looking forward to reading more of your posts.

    Faye Jessica | fayejessica.co.uk

    • Stephanie Jay
      September 1, 2018 / 7:16 pm

      Thank you so much!

    • Stephanie Jay
      September 1, 2018 / 7:17 pm

      Ah that’s great, will definitely check your post out – thank you!

  10. September 1, 2018 / 6:57 pm

    I didn’t go on social media for one month a couple of years ago and it was so liberating. My fear that I would miss out on something was complete nonsense. I think I may try doing it again for a few days and give my eyes a rest from the small screen 🙂

    • Stephanie Jay
      September 1, 2018 / 7:18 pm

      Wow that’s amazing, just goes to show that we don’t need our phones like we think we do!

  11. September 2, 2018 / 11:36 am

    I’ve got a post in the works about digital detoxing. Sounds like it did you the world of good. We don’t realise just how much time we waste passively using social media sometimes and it’s a major drain. There’s even been studies that show excessive passive Facebook usage negatively affects mental health. I think the FOMO can be very real. You did great and it’s great that you’ve shared the experience too x

    • Stephanie Jay
      September 2, 2018 / 6:25 pm

      I’ll be sure to check your post out! So true that we don’t realise how much time we waste, I find I concentrate a lot better now I’m not always flicking through my phone! X

  12. September 2, 2018 / 12:55 pm

    I’m in awe of the fact you managed it for a whole week! I can cope with a couple of days, but my entire life is on my phone, not even because of social media, but because my work has an app to clock in and out, my college has an app for us to send work etc. so a complete detox from my phone wouldn’t be an option, although I imagine it’s quite liberating. It’s funny how so much of our lives are tied to our phones and devices. It’s really great to see that this detox worked for you and it’s helped to make you feel better. As someone with anxiety as well, I’m definitely up for taking a leaf outta your book and doing a weekend detox – it’ll probably make such a difference.
    Thanks for sharing!

    Kelly | http://www.paperbackadventures.com

    • Stephanie Jay
      September 2, 2018 / 6:26 pm

      It’s definitely not an option for a lot of people to do what I did because so much of our lives/jobs are related to our phone! Hopefully a weekend detox will be be refreshing for you! X

  13. September 3, 2018 / 12:55 pm

    Social media detoxes are soo refreshing. I did a three day one a while back whilst spending some quality time with my boyfriend and it was the best! I have all my notifications turned off on my phone anyway for SM apps as I find them really overwhelming at the best of times. Well done you for doing it for a whole week! I would love to do it soon when I’m having a bit of a lengthier break from blogging. Wishing you so much luck in your recovery girl and I’m glad you’re feeling a little better and more motivated!
    Alice Xx

    • Stephanie Jay
      September 4, 2018 / 3:56 pm

      It really does help you have better quality time with people doesn’t it! Thank you! Xx

  14. September 3, 2018 / 10:30 pm

    I’ve done phone detox a couple times before – more so on holidays. It’s fun and keeps me in the moment. It’s so refreshing! But when we’re home, it’s hard to stay off my laptop 🙁

    • Stephanie Jay
      September 4, 2018 / 3:54 pm

      Yeah I do think doing it on holiday is a lot easier! I might try to do a 24 hour one at home just to remember that I don’t need to be glued to my phone!

  15. September 11, 2018 / 8:48 pm

    I love this blog! It’s so insightful. I love how honest you are! 😊❤️ I think I may try a phone detox! I doubt I would last long haha! I am going to enjoy reading more of your blog. You are a great writer. ❤️🌸 xxx

    • Stephanie Jay
      September 11, 2018 / 8:58 pm

      Thank you so much, that’s really kind! It’s so hard switching your phone off isn’t it! Xxx

  16. September 23, 2018 / 12:19 pm

    A phone detox is such a brilliant idea, I love the sound of it! I didn’t have a phone detox but whilst I was off for two weeks with my boyf I looked at my phone less and was shocked at how much more positive my mindset was without constantly being on twitter. I had so many less worries and stresses which made me realise how toxic social media can often be. I really hope you feel more inspired as time goes on, sending lots of love your way! <3

    Sophie | soinspo xo

    • Stephanie Jay
      January 26, 2019 / 9:28 pm

      Even looking at your phone less without a full on detox can be so refreshing! 💖

  17. September 23, 2018 / 4:27 pm

    I would love to try a phone detox. I think I would be more concerned about not being about able to contact my friends than I would about social media, but I reckon I could do it!

    Abi | https://whatabigailsays.co.uk/

    • Stephanie Jay
      January 26, 2019 / 9:29 pm

      Yeah contacting friends is the main thing I would struggle with too, I had my detox when I was on holiday so didn’t need to be contacting anyone!

  18. January 13, 2019 / 12:02 pm

    Having a break from Social Media can be soooo liberating! The lomgest time I spent without my phone was an entire day when I went to university and left it at home. I honestly felt like a different person! But I’m not sure if I could do it an entire week 🙈 Maybe I should give it a try for two or three days!

    • Stephanie Jay
      January 26, 2019 / 9:30 pm

      The first bit is actually so hard but once you get used to it it’s so much easier! 💖

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